Every January, I take the time to craft specific objectives rather than just vague resolutions.
Like many, my goals typically revolve around enhancing my finances, boosting my productivity, committing to reading more, managing my weight, and improving my overall mental, physical, financial, and spiritual health.
This Year’s Focus on Our Marriage
This year, however, I had an epiphany: my marriage with my husband needed more intentional attention.
Just as I invest in my personal growth, I recognized the need to nurture our relationship.
To chart a course for improvement, I decided to enlist my husband, Hugh, in the process.
I approached him with some thoughtful open-ended questions, which paved the way for us to set our relationship objectives together—a ritual we’ve been following for nearly ten years.
Here’s how I kicked off our discussion:
- What are some of your favorite memories from our dating days?
- Are there any activities we used to enjoy that have faded from our routine?
- Is there a dream or experience you’ve always wanted us to share?
- Can you think of a special destination we should aim to visit?
- What achievements would you like us to reach together this year?
Hugh’s responses opened up refreshing avenues during our annual planning.
By taking a moment to delve into his thoughts on our relationship, I was able to create a positive path forward instead of relying solely on assumptions about his happiness.
This dialogue helped us to weave meaningful traditions into our lives—like setting aside one day weekly for fun, tackling projects we often talked about, and planning trips we might have otherwise neglected.
Working Together for Growth
Throughout the years, I’ve generally taken the lead in establishing and pursuing these goals.
This dynamic suits us since Hugh carries a heavy load with family responsibilities.
My focus on strengthening our relationship complements his priorities well.
It shows how significant strides can be made when one partner decides to step up.
As noted in Romans 12:18, we should seek harmony whenever we can, a sentiment that resonates powerfully in marriage, particularly when both partners might hesitate to take that first step.
I invite you to embark on this journey with your partner, using these questions to uncover shared aspirations for the coming year.
If it feels overwhelming at first, or if you’re experiencing frustration as the primary instigator of intimacy, consider these five simple goals to enhance your connection in the months ahead:
- Start each day with a kiss. This small yet meaningful gesture can deepen your bond.
Studies show that couples who share daily kisses, however brief, experience greater happiness.
- Share words of encouragement. Simple, thoughtful acts can yield impressive results.
Focus your communication on uplifting affirmations that inspire your partner; you might notice improvements in your relationship in just a few days.
- Commit to a regular date night. For parents, arranging a babysitter can be tough, but teaming up with another couple to alternate childcare can free up time for a monthly outing for each pair.
Remembering to date each other is vital, both before and after tying the knot.
- Explore a relationship-enhancement book together. Although it might sound unexciting, reading together can be enjoyable and fruitful for your partnership.
Consider reading aloud before bed or taking turns chapter by chapter.
- Pray together consistently. Even if you’re involved in ministry, finding time for genuine connection in prayer can be challenging.
Yet, dedicating just a few minutes each morning to pray can transform your day.
Embracing the Journey
Reflect on the latter portion of 1 Corinthians 13:7, which highlights that love is about endurance, trust, hope, and resilience.
As you set your goals for your marriage, embrace these efforts with enthusiasm and warmth, mirroring the love that Christ embodies.
Source: Crosswalk
